Without a doubt it is so, so easy to blame everything/everyone but yourself for your current situation, or why you don’t go for the things you want, or why things aren’t going the way you would like, or why people don’t respect you.
Pushing the blame onto something else is much easier than taking responsibility for it yourself. But believe me, you need to become the one responsible. The quicker you own up to being responsible for your life, your goals, your happiness, your love, your anxiety, your job, your home life. The quicker you can make the changes needed to have it the way you would like to see it.
Nothings ever going to be perfect, nothing is ever going to be plain sailing, you’re not always going to be floating around on cloud 9 and you certainly can’t control anything outside of yourself, the mere act of trying to control everything is going to bring stress to your life.
But the fact that life can’t be controlled is the beauty of life, it flows freely, it is uncertain, it’s not perfect. It isn’t all fluffy clouds, and pure comfort.
Yeah, that’s right life can’t be controlled and the reason many people are unhappy, living in fear and stress, is because of this constant need for control, the need for everything to be known before it can be trusted.
The key is surrendering to life and all its uncertainty; all those unknowns that so many tend to fear, but still making changes inside yourself to become the man or woman you want to be.
Be responsible for you. Take responsibility for that change that is needed.
I get it – it is easy to blame the people around you for the way you feel, it’s easy to blame society for the way men and woman are today. It’s easy to blame your family, friends and boss for doing a job you never enjoyed, just to put food on the table.
After all taking responsibility for that could mean having to step out of your comfort zone, it could mean you could do something about it. That shit is scary right?
But come on let’s face up to it, if you are an anxious person than be responsible for that, you hold the power to change that, face your feelings, find people who can help you, change your mindsets through being around the right people, reading the right things etc..
If you don’t want to do the work you’re doing any more, then take responsibility and make the changes necessary till you can do something you enjoy, the opportunities are out there, but if you are putting the blame elsewhere, feeling sorry for yourself and not taking action, then not much is going to come your way.
These are just two examples of many, many things that people don’t take responsibility for.
Taking responsibility means we know it is up to us to become who we want to be, it is up to us to do the things we want to do, it is up to us to live the way we always wanted, it is up to us to live in less comfort and grow more as a person, living through uncertainties and stepping into the unknowns. It is up to us to choose to be happy, to love more, to relax into life.
The world doesn’t owe you shit, nor does anyone in it.
Stop acting like the world is against you, stop acting like it isn’t your fault and start being responsible for everything in your life. You can’t change things outside yourself that you don’t like, if you can’t change yourself first and by changing yourself you will make a much bigger impact then you could ever imagine. By stepping into your power you are unconsciously giving others permission to do the same.
No doubt you have heard or read this quote before, but it’s awesome –
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”
You and only you are responsible for everything in your life.
Unless you’re a dependent child reading this, then by all means put that responsibility on your parents for time being, other than that concentrate on the positives and know that you can make the change you want and need.
Step into your power. Be responsible.